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每個女生或多或少也曾幻想過屬於自己的Dream Wedding,而幾乎每個父親當知道自己的女兒快要出嫁的時候,內心也會經歷一場又一場的掙扎。一方面為女兒找到幸福而感到安慰,另方面卻捨不得把女兒放手,從此離開自己身邊,投向另一個給她幸福的男人。

 

許冠文就曾公開承認在女兒婚禮前一晚經過女兒房間便流下男兒淚來,他更表示自己患有嫁女抑鬱症,感覺女兒婚後就像從此不再會回到這房間似的。

 

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P6mz7B_uLqc

 

難怪有關父女之間的千絲萬縷,有一個浪漫的說法,女兒是父親上輩子的情人。Sigmund Freud (西格蒙德 . 佛洛伊德)說過,父親是女兒形成女性氣質的導引者、支持者和認可者。 隨著女兒越來越長大,父親對她影響力猶勝過母親。 所以說,婚禮上,新娘父親的心情可算是百般滋味上心頭,有點酸,有點甜。

 

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B32VgWUPRVU

 

尤其是中國人,男士在情感上的表達比較含蓄和收藏,不似女人般的盡情。因此,大家很少會在香港的婚禮中捕捉到新娘父親的淚光,反而媽咪和新娘的不捨眼淚就屢見不鮮。

 

其實,父親的心情比誰也忐忑,女兒是他這輩子唯一一個由零開始照顧與相處的異性,小女兒對父親的依賴,以及一舉手一投足,也能牽動著父親的一顆溫柔的心。有人說,男人都想塑造一個他心目中最理想女性的願望,而藉著女兒便得以實現。 可以說,女兒,是男人對異性的一個最美麗的夢。

 

準新娘啊,婚禮上可別忘了妳的父親,他可能一向沉默,對於妳要出嫁,他一直沒有發表太多話。但是,在他的內心深處,還是需要妳的一個盡在不言中的擁抱。跟他跳隻舞吧!就用一首歌的時間,躺在父親的胸懷,好好感受一下父親的體溫。以下這首歌,會讓妳明白妳在父親心目中的地位是何等神聖。以下三個真實婚禮的片段,會讓妳懂得,女人在婚禮上有父親陪住出嫁,是多麼難能可貴的事情。

 

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wE_QN0abVGI

 

願,每位待嫁的女人,在婚禮上,別忘了親吻妳的父親。

一位從妳這輩子第一刻開始,便一直愛妳的男人。

 

"Butterfly Kisses"

There's two things I know for sure:
She was sent here from heaven and she's daddy's little girl.
As I drop to my knees by her bed at night
She talks to Jesus and I close my eyes
and I thank god for all of the joy in my life
Oh, but most of all

For butterfly kisses after bedtime prayer;
sticking little white flowers all up in her hair;
"Walk beside the pony, Daddy, it's my first ride."
"I know the cake looks funny, Daddy, but I sure tried."
Oh, with all that I've done wrong, I must have done something right
To deserve a hug every morning And butterfly kisses at night.

Sweet 16 today
She's looking like her mama a little more everyday
One part woman, the other part girl.
To perfume and make-up from ribbons and curls
Trying her wings out in a great big world.
But I remember.....

Butterfly kisses after bedtime prayer;
sticking little white flowers all up in her hair.
"You know how much I love you, Daddy,
But if you don't mind I'm only gonna kiss you on the cheek this time."
Oh with all that I've done wrong I must have done something right
to deserve her love every morning and butterfly kisses at night.

All the precious time
Like the wind, the years go by.
Precious butterfly.
Spread your wings and fly.

She'll change her name today.
She'll make a promise and I'll give her away.
Standing in the bride-room just staring at her.
She asked me what I'm thinking and I said
"I'm not sure-I just feel like I'm losing my baby girl."
She leaned over

Gave me butterfly kisses with her mama there,
Sticking little white flowers all up in her hair
"Walk me down the aisle, Daddy-it's just about time."
"Does my wedding gown look pretty, Daddy? Daddy, don't cry"
Oh, with all that I've done wrong I must have done something right.
To deserve her love every morning and butterfly kisses

I couldn't ask God for more, man this is what love is.
I know I gotta let her go, but I'll always remember
Every hug in the morning and butterfly kisses...

 

photo credit to Desky Che photography